Motherhood, Judgement & Grace: A Mother's Day Reflection | Rise & Glow Births

The Things I Judged Before I Became a Mum

By Amifa, Hypnobirthing Teacher at Rise & Glow Births

I remember about 15 years ago on the bus I fully judged a woman who opened a pack of crisps and gave it to her toddler.

Ugh, “How could you feed something so salty to a child so young?” I thought, with my childless perspective on the world.

Fast forward 15 years and I gave my 18 month old some shop bought chips that had a bit of salt on them without even blinking.

My point is we can sometimes be so quick to judge parents without even knowing them.

That child on the bus might have had an incredibly nutrient rich diet which, simply, INCLUDED that packet of crisps.

If I was blessed with hindsight and could go back to that day, I’d be thinking “Good for you mum; you are organised enough to have something to pull out of the bag (literally!) to keep your child satisfied and, dare I say it, quiet on the bus!”

We are all simply trying our best.

A Mother’s Day Reflection

Wherever you are on your journey, whether you’re preparing for a baby, pregnant right now, or running around after little ones, I just want to say this:

You’re doing better than you think.

If you’re preparing for a baby and have already connected with the Rise & Glow team, I salute you. It means you’re intentionally choosing to feel calm, informed and empowered during your pregnancy and birth journey.

That’s such an incredible gift to give yourself and your baby.

If You’re Pregnant Right Now

If you are pregnant now, with your first baby on the way, you already deserve a medal.

You know why?

I bet you are making at least 10 choices a week that directly benefit the baby growing inside you.

Like sticking with a job that you might not exactly love (if you ask me, going in 5 days a week = 5 choices!).

Or maybe you are drinking that extra glass of water because, even though you feel fine without it, you know it’s great for baby.

If You’re Already Parenting Little Ones

And if you’re already running around after little humans…

Here are your flowers. 💐

I hope you have taken some time today to give yourself grace for anything you might feel even a little parent guilt about.

I also hope you gift yourself something.

It could just be an extra 5 minutes in the bath.

With love,

Amifa 💖